Friday, 6 July 2012

De Bono’s Hats and Children in Prison!


 

What a couple of days.  My head is spinning…. Today was particularly surreal. We stood on the balcony outside the conference room looking out over the swimming pool and the King of Buganda’s personal lake, then inside the conference room we heard Tom’s feedback on his research project looking at children with disabilities in Soroti district.



 He gave us a lot to discuss and think about. I thought I understood some of the problems after carrying out some preliminary research for Global Care a couple of years ago.  How naive!!  The reality is saddening and at times the issues seem insurmountable. How can you fight for the rights of a neglected group of people who are rejected and abused, sometimes even by their own families? Tom told us stories of amazing mothers who do the best for their children with no resources, no support and no facilities and where the saying goes “If there’s a problem with the child he’s his mother’s, if he’s successful, he’s his father’s”. 

The key issues I’ve come away with are:

1. Transport – how on earth can children with disability travel? There’s no adapted transport, no money for transport or fuel, the roads are difficult for able bodied people to walk on. How can they get to school, to hospital, anywhere? The answer is: those that can, will crawl and stagger in the mud to reach their destination.

2. Social acceptance – how can you ensure that all children are treated with dignity and respect, whatever their situation? How can you protect them and keep them safe? How can you ensure they have rights? Part of the answer is to empower the children, their care givers and their communities by education and by finding people who will stand up for vulnerable children.
  
3. Culture – how do you work for the rights of vulnerable children where the law works on paper but not in reality, where gender issues pervade every part of society and where disability isn’t always seen as a health issue?

In a moment of madness I said to Tom – let’s try De Bono’s hats* to get this lot talking it through logically and come to some decisions – 10 minutes to prepare over coffee (by the pool of course) – and off we went. Not sure how successful it was but we talked through lots of ideas and people were able to say what they thought and felt.  Never thought that would come in useful in Uganda.

Spent this evening chatting over issues such as prisons and repentance. Discussed the various atrocities committed by women in the name of love.  One of the younger women said ‘Why would a woman do that for a MAN?’ One of the younger men said ‘Why would a man take a second WIFE?’ Someone said ‘Why does God forgive a murderer who repents and how do you know they’ve truly repented’. …… blog reader please discuss with your friends J

And finally we heard brilliant news about some changes that have happened to improve the lives of children who have to live in prisons when their mothers are arrested and/or imprisoned. And that dear reader you will hear more about another day.  Now I am going to try and get some sleep before the dogs and muezzin join the crickets, talking, traffic and occasional blasts of music or the blighters that get through the holes in my mosquito net.

*Note: De B’s Hats = decision making tool as used by yours truly when delivering Facilitation Skills workshops

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